Behind Closed Doors

Is it a generic or is it just my family that has a problem with closed doors?

Why I ask is because, except for my brother and I, no one seems to like us sitting at home with doors closed.

Here, at my cousin's place, I have a room to myself. Which should mean that it is My Space. But what it means is this, "Don't sit with the doors locked. Don't do anything inside the room. Don't sit there in the room when someone is home."

"Why do you have to close the door?"

Huh?

This was the same when I was living with my parents. My father removed the bolt of my room itself, because my mother insisted that I shouldn't be allowed to sit in a locked room.

What do they think I do behind closed doors? Have an orgy? Or worse yet - Sit by myself?

I have seen this - except for in the hostels - people, especially family are paranoid about the concept of closed doors. What is the problem with having closed door. Every one has a private domain. Why not have a physical one too? Inside the room?

I can understand parents being afraid of what might their children (aged 8-15) be doing behind closed doors. And if these children are not tall enough, it might be difficult for them to open the doors. But what about when they have grown? Like now?

Whatever happens behind closed doors, is to be known to parents. I ask where is the logic behind it? Or is it because parents refuse to believe that their children are grown ups?

Like the classic example of my cousin walking in on me in a compromising situation. Just because I was used to closed doors, and he wasn't. He and I both, didn't know where to look and what to say - while being highly embarassed at the situation we were in.

Closed doors for the person inside (like me) gives a sense of security; of personal space. For the person outside it is the classic panic setting in.

For the person inside the fear of closed spaces is called claustrophobia. What is it called for the person outside? Closedoorophobia?